Observations on the World.

    Trust. We all have a desire to feel safe whether it be in a relationship with your parents, siblings, or significant other. We want to feel that feeling of trust and like we could do or say anything and have the knowledge that it will all be ok. I have been an observer as of late. I have noticed that the idea of wanting to trust the people you surround yourself with in life is a common desire amongst everyone really. This feeling starts when we are babies. We want to feel safe with who is holding us and where we are at all moments. I have noticed that my baby niece will now make sad noises when she feels that someone she trusts is walking away, or if someone that she doesn't really know is holding her. She wants to feel safe. This continues on to our younger school years. My niece that is ten years old will hold my hand a little tighter if we walk passed someone she has a "weird feeling" about on the street, or she will talk about school and how she only feels comfortable with particular friends. As we travel forward in life we get into relationships and when we are young we find that we feel the need to know what your partner is doing every moment of every day. We want to know who they are talking to and how they are feeling. As we grow and have the life experiences that hurt us and make us strong, we learn that trust isn't so easy to get. It isn't just going to fall into your lap. You have to work at it. The people around you have to work at it. You have to learn to trust and you have to put faith in others. It's really hard, but once you have it and you feel it, you will feel that safe feeling you longed for when you were young.
     Through my observations in life I have also realized that how we react to certain situations reflect the outcome of the situation. For example, I was driving to work this morning and was sitting at a red light. The turning lane light went green and the car in front of me decided that we were waiting TOO LONG for that green light and he just zoomed into the turning lane to turn and right when he did that my light turned green and I was on my way, not much faster than him. If he had only waited just one more second he would have stuck to his original plan of going straight.
     Life is unfair sometimes, it really is, but if we could just adjust all the feelings of unfairness and the thoughts of "why me?" and change them to feelings of lessons and thoughts of "this will only make me stronger" then our whole attitude would change. It isn't about what happens to you in life, it is about how you choose to react to it. If you're feeling stuck or uncertain or lost or neglected find a way to help yourself. Put that trust that you desire in yourself. Trust yourself. Yourself will never ever ever steer you wrong.
     Trust. Trust your feelings, your emotions and attitude. Trust that you will always have the courage to do what is right for you.