I am having a difficult time lately with friendships. There. I said it. As I look around I always find the same friends surrounding me. In my life so far, I have had a lot of friendships. High School friendships, summer friendships, College friendships... and most of the people that I once considered my friends are no longer in my life. That is fine, it really is. I understand that life is all about change and people floating in and out of your life.
Lately I have been thinking about the people that are always and will always be in my life, the constants. I can easily count them on two hands. They are the friends that I can go days, months even years without seeing, but then once I see them again it is as if nothing has changed... you know who you are. We are just always there for one another, it is an unsaid thing.
I also have the friendships where I know that if I did not put forth the effort then we would no longer be in each others lives anymore. I am frustrated because I have grown tired to always being the one to make the effort. It makes me sad because friendship should not have to be about "effort" it should be about carelessness and ease.
It is just so fascinating to me how someone can be in your life as a constant, but then all of a sudden you change or they change or life changes and they go from being a constant to a distant memory.
It makes me feel like the distant memory friendships are not worth it when I know that I have pretty amazing constants in my life. Is it worth it?
This blog is dedicated to the constants in my life. I appreciate you and the love you give me eternally. I hope you know that every time we are apart I look forward to our next meeting.
I want you to take the time to think about the people in your life. Are you a friend that stays connected with people or are you the one that never makes the effort? Which one do you want to be? Do you want to sit down with an old friend and say to them, "I haven't talked with so and so for ages!" Or "I do not know what happened?" or do you want to sit down with a close friend and say, "I just talked with so" or "I just text messaged so and so and they are doing great." I know which one I want to be... now it is time for you to make your own choice.
Remember, just a friendly text message saying, "hope you have a good day" goes a long way.
